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Who Knew Chickens Could Make Good Pets?

What do you get when a vegan kid brings home a baby chick?
A new pet.

And what do you get when the vegan kid has an over indulgent father?
Two more chicks, so the first one doesn’t get lonely.
(‘What? They’re social!’ That’s what I was told by my husband, who was told by our child.)

Of course, this all led to a very stinky bedroom which necessitated the building of a coop in the back yard. We’re still working on the run, so they can go outside unattended. What can I say, our youngest is a helicopter pet owner…  What’s it like to have pet chickens?

A few minutes ago, I had a conversation with my child that sounded like this:
“Is Charlie going to the farmers market on Saturday?”
“Yes”
“Can Lilly go too?”
“No”
“Why not?”
“She’s a chicken.”
“So. Charlie gets to go.”
“Yeah. He’s a dog.”
“That’s not fair!”

Seriously though, the chickens are so loving it’s funny. Angel likes to crawl into people’s laps to be petted, and Lilly likes to climb up onto shoulders and nuzzle in their hair.

Who knew they would be like that?

Our kid did. That’s who.

My Summer to Theirs; 4 Decades of Change

Remember Your Summer Vacation?

When I look at my teenagers and how they have spent their summer, I get nostalgic. And a little sad over the things that aren’t common anymore. And excited about all the new things in the world.

Who remembers summers like this:

There were only 3 TV stations (unless your parents were willing to spring for cable, if it was even available in your area), no VCR’s, DVD’s, DVR’s or digital devices. You spent your days roaming outside, when you weren’t inside playing board games, D&D, or hanging out. Watching a movie meant going to a theater. Shopping often entailed walking to the mall or store first. Talking to your friends usually occured while you were in the same room with them, and involved no electronic devices. The phone was attached to the wall with a cord, and your parents yelled at you if you hogged it. Affordable cameras for the masses meant a point and shoot disposable camera that needed to be dropped off for a week to be developed, so you had to wait to see if any of the pictures you took were any good. Everybody wore a watch, and knew how to read it. Commodore 64 computers, Atari game system, and VCR’s were so new that you may have seen commercials on TV, but not actually used one.

So what happened between then and now, to change the landscape of American life forever?

1979: Large numbers of Atari home systems hit the market. They were used primarily as a plugin game cartridge system.

1982: The ever increasingly affordable Commodore 64 personal computer hits the market.  Other systems existed, but were not as affordable. The Commodore was primarily used as a game playing system, and made use of floppy disks (when floppy disks really were floppy.).  Price wars between Atari and Commodore caused prices to drop ridiculously low, making both increasingly affordable.

1984: Apple introduces the first personal computer that isn’t operated using a computer language. Instead it used icons, mouse clicks, and dragging and dropping, much as personal computer operating systems do now. This made the Apple computers easily usable by people who had no knowledge of programming languages.While these computers were not cheap, they helped lead to Windows, which became standard on non-Apple/non-Mac personal computers, and these computers were much more affordable.

 

1985: First version of Windows hits the market. It was suspiciously reminiscent of using an Apple computer.

1991: The World Wide Web (as in www) debuts, as does Google, putting a wide range of information at our fingertips.

Early 1990’s: Cell phones become common, making us accessible, any time, any place.

Late 1990’s:  Large numbers of people begin making use of the personal email providers that are hitting the market.

1997: Amazon.com went public (Books, and products at your fingertips, changing the way we live our lives.)

Early 2010’s: Smart phones become commonplace. More than phones, these are like mini-personal computers that you can fit in a pocket or purse.

I know some of these items were technically available at earlier dates than listed. The dates listed are for when the items were affordable to most families, user friendly enough for the average user, and produced in large enough quantities to be used by large numbers of families across America.

My kids have never known a world without DVRs, Netflix, email, texting, smartphones, online gaming, Instagram, Google, laptops and tablets – things that would have blown me away as a child or teenager.  I’m not sure who had summer vacation better.  Me or them. What do you think?

5 Things To Help You Find The Right Soap

Dream of lush, soft, subtle, smooth, glowing, healthy, and happy skin? Is that what you are getting with your soap? Unfortunately not everyone has that experience. Some people have soap leaves their skin dry, tight, irritated, itchy, sticky, oily, and dull. If this is you, maybe it’s time for a new soap.

Because soaps are NOT all equal. There are others like: goats milk, beeswax, animal based, vegetable based, or vegan. Some can be scented or unscented, some are even labelled hypoallergenic or antibacterial. What does it all mean? Who even cares?

You should, because what’s put into your soap affects how it makes your skin feel. Ingredients can also affect how the soap performs.You may disagree with some companies who practice testing their products on animals.

Here are some things to consider when choosing a soaps.

  • You should buy soaps that are labeled, or has a list of ingredients that you can see, and preferably take away with you. If you give soap as a gift, make sure that the person receiving the soap has an ingredient list as well. Why? You should know what you’re going to put onto your skin, which is your biggest organ (FYI: about  20 square feet of surface area for the average adult). In addition to the considerations of soap performance, skin feel, and morals, many people have allergies. So demand some form of  labeling.

 

  •  Soap is soap, and detergent is detergent, and never to two shall meet.

Soap has been around for hundreds, if not thousands of years. Soap cleans and many of them suds up, but hard water and cold water may decrease their solubility, making it harder for them to do their jobs.

Soap is made when plant and/or animal based oils and/or fats are mixed with caustic soda (a strong base) like lye, under the right conditions. Soap is the metal salt of the acids/fats that were reacted. Soap is made from naturally occurring substances, but can vary greatly by the ingredients and how the soap is made.

Well made soap has no lye left in the bar. If a soap is improperly made it has a weird slippery feel that won’t rinse off and leaves your skin feeling tight, itchy, and/or irritated after use. A soap like this can leave your skin dry and searching for moisture.

Detergents are relatively new. They were developed during WW1, when ingredients needed to make traditional soap were in short supply. They are synthetic, man made compounds, made in a multistep process.

Like soaps, they also clean, usually suds well. They also have the advantage of staying soluble in hard and cold water, and rinse off easier. But they tend to be much harsher when used directly on the skin, and there are environmental concerns associated with many of them. Sulfates (like sodium lauryl sulfate) and sulfonates are examples of commonly used detergents.

Most commercial soap, body wash, and shampoo preparations aren’t soaps at all. They are entirely, or almost entirely, chemical detergent mixtures that strip necessary surface oils from your skin right along with the dirt and grime. They can leave your skin dry, irritated, itchy, and tight feeling. Some people have reactions to the detergents that can possibly manifest itself into severe skin issues later on such as dermatitis and eczema.

 

  • A good hand, body, or face soap is in the formulation and expertise of the soap manufacturer. While you can make a soap using a single fat or oil, but there are greater benefits to using a  blended formulation. A common bar that cleans and suds well is a coconut oil bar. Unfortunately it can be a bar that dries the skin, causing cracking that can leave your skin unsightly.

 

  • Now that you know too much lye is irritating and can cause dryness followed by cracking. Yet, a bar with too much fat and oil becomes soft, doesn’t sud well, and the unreacted oils can go rancid. This makes using the bar unlikable as it can leave you feeling tacky, oily, and sticky. This is why you want a manufacturer with a good quality control program to ensure your soap doesn’t fall into either of these undesirable states.

 

  • Avoid these 19 ingredients. In 2016, the FDA issued a final rule establishing that the following 19 active ingredients used in consumer antiseptic products intended for use with water are not generally recognized as safe and effective. The 19 are:

Cloflucarban, Fluorosalan, Hexachlorophene, Hexylresorcinol, Iodine complex (ammonium ether sulfate and polyoxyethylene sorbitan monolaurate), Iodine complex (phosphate ester of alkylaryloxy polyethylene glycol), Methylbenzethonium chloride, Nonylphenoxypoly (ethyleneoxy) ethanoliodine, Phenol (greater than 1.5 percent), Phenol (less than 1.5 percent), Poloxamer-iodine complex, Povidone-iodine 5 to 10 percent, Secondary amyltricresols, Sodium oxychlorosene, Tribromsalan,Triclocarban, Triclosan, Triple dye, Undecoylium chloride iodine complex.]

See this link for more information on these 19 chemicals.

 

We here at More Bees have not used any of these 19 ingredients, and we never would. We also have our own high standard of quality control our own QA/QC program to give us a consistent product that gives our customer an excellent experience when using our products. Our formulation is well balanced for a long lasting bar that is gentle on the skin and helps keep your skin hydrated and healthy.

 

 

History Repeats: 2017’s Solar Eclipse

 

We remember it very well…

We were in a little canteen on the warm sandy beach of San Blas, Mexico, relaxing and waiting. It was why the six of us had come to Mexico. We watched it’s progress, as sunspots created by the thatched roof, marched cross our table, in spots that slowly morphed into crescents. We could hear French, German, and Russian, as more people collected on the beach. Then, it happened. The Brown Pelicans flew in from the ocean, as it grew increasingly dusky. Plus it was only 1:30 pm in the afternoon and it was dark, like the middle of the night! Totality! For almost 7 minutes. That’s long for a total eclipse! Then, crescents that morphed slowly into spots began to march across the table. As the skies grew lighter, we could hear a rooster crow!

That was the summer of 1991. It is a memory that has stayed with each of us vividly through all these years.

And now, we can show our children. I hope the memory stays with them, the way the memory of the San Blas stays with me. You see, on August 21st, there will be a total eclipse. The path of totality stretches from Oregon to South Carolina, and totality will last over two minutes. This website gives really good maps showing the path of totality. The closer to the blue line you are, the longer totality will last.

We hope you get the chance to observe the eclipse. There aren’t many total eclipses in our lifetimes, and they are not always in convenient places. So, if you can make it happen, you should experience this total eclipse, and make a memory that may just last a lifetime.  Remember to be safe.  Purchase mylar glasses to help protect your eyes, or use a pinhole and the sunspot it throws to follow the eclipse. Looking directly at the sun can cause permanent damage to your eyes. Check out this link, for safe viewing information. And remember, a telescope, binoculars, or camera will not protect your eyes (unless you have purchased, and are using a special filter designed for this purpose.)

Tips For Healthier Skin and a Healthier You #2: You Are What You Eat

Today, we’re going to be discussing tips for healthier skin and a healthier you. There are lots of tips we could give: staying hydrated, eating the right kinds of foods, protecting against overexposure to the sun, and your skin care regime are just some of things we will be discussing in this periodic series. We’ve already discussed staying hydrated. Our #2 tip for healthier skin, and the one we will talk about today is eating properly.

  1.  You Are What You Eat

When you think about the impact food can have on your skin, it can be confusing.

I mean, first they said it did. Then they said it didn’t. Now, they say it does again. What you eat really can affect your skin. Acne, wrinkles, dermatitis, psoriasis, and a whole host of other skin issues can be affected by diet.

White rice, refined sugars and flours, and foods made from these foodstuffs  increase your body’s production of sebum (the oil your skin makes), which can cause oily skin that is prone to acne flares. Scientific studies have also shown a link between dairy consumption and acne, though it is much smaller.

 

 

 

 

 

 

And the aging of our skin is greatly impacted by the amount of sugar we get through our diet.  Wrinkles, sagging skin, and loss of skin elasticity are all impacted by diet, particularly sugars (in the forms of fructose, and sucrose).  They accelerate the signs of aging because sugars they promote the cross-linking of collagen fibers.  And once linked, your body isn’t able to repair this type of damage.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

There are some foods that actually keep this cross-linking process from occurring. These include herbs and spices, such as oregano, cinnamon, cloves, ginger, and garlic, as well as substances found naturally in may fruits and vegetables, so incorporating such foods into your diet on a daily basis BEFORE signs of skin aging will help you keep young looking skin as you age.

If you are prone to inflammatory skin conditions like dermatitis, eczema, or psoriasis, consider eating an “anti-inflammatory” diet, like the Mediterranean-style diet. Even if you aren’t prone to such conditions, many physicians recommend a diet rich in fruits and vegetables, which favors whole grains over processed grains and omega-3 (salmon, mackerel, walnuts, so on)  fatty acids over omega-6 (poultry, eggs, so on) fatty acids.

So next time you reach for that plate of cookies and glass of milk, consider having a bowl of cherries instead. Just as sweet, but so much better for you, and your skin. You can pick them up at your local farmer’s market near you!

1 Epic Close to Home Hike You’ll Go Ape For

Looking for something a little different? Something cool? Both literally and figuratively? Then check out one of SW Washington’s hidden gems.The Ape Cave.

Never been to the Ape Cave? Maybe it’s time you went.

Wondering just what the heck it is? The Ape Cave is North America’s longest lava tube at over 2 miles long. Located in the Gifford Pinchot National Forest, near Cougar, Washington, on the south side of Mount Saint Helens, it’s less than 2 hours from Portland. It was discovered by a scout group, sponsored by the St Helens Apes, in the 1950’s.

The Upper entrance is a longer hike (about 1 ½ miles) from the parking area, while the hike from the parking area to the main entrance is much easier – a paved trail that is less than ½ mile long.

The Ape Cave can be accessed by  two entrances, the upper entrance and the main entrance.  The Hike from the Upper entrance to the main entrance is moderately difficult, with boulder covered floors in some areas, and an 8 foot lava fall to navigate, while the hike from the main entrance to the end of the cave is much easier going. That said, no part of the hike through the lava tube is wheelchair accessible, and may be difficult for those with disabilities or health issues. Check the websites before going to see if you think this day trip is for you.

Inside the cave, there are a few features to look out for: the “skylight” (between the two entrances) and the “meatball” located between the main entrance and the end of the cave. The end of the cave is fun to look at too.  You have to crawl through a short section of tube to reach the end, so if tight spaces freak you out, just be aware of that.

 

Because it’s underground, the temperature is a damp 42 degrees year around. So, even on the hottest days, you can get a break from the heat, while experiencing one of our world’s wonders.  Make sure to wear/bring warm cloths, wear sturdy shoes, and a flashlight/headlamp is a must.  Extra batteries are recommended. There is no inside lighting provided. Because this is a tube, and not a cave system, there no branching inside cave, so it is almost impossible to get lost inside. The cave is open year round, but check road conditions in the late fall, winter, and early spring for snow closures.

Caution:  If you are claustrophobic, this one may not be for you.

3 Marvelous Places to Cool Off This Summer

WOW!  We’re just one month into summer vacation, and we’ve already had some scorchers!  Swimming is a great way to cool off. Just about every community center in the Portland/Vancouver Metropolitan area has a pool, some fancier than others. Great memories can be made at our local community centers.

But what about when you want a larger than life experience? Something you and your friends or family will talk about for years to come?

Wings and Waves, Wild Waves, and Great Wolf Lodge can all deliver.

Here’s the rundown on each of these three water parks to help you decide which is right for you.

Wings and Waves

This is the smallest park featured, but it packs lots of fun and features in its well designed indoor space. It also has the lowest prices, and is closest to downtown Portland, Salem, and Lincoln City.  

Website: http://wingsandwaveswaterpark.com/

Where:  McMinnville, OR (1 hour from Portland)

(Located on Evergreen Aviation and Space Museum campus, but separate entry fees apply.)

Hours and Days: 10am-6pm, Sat-Thurs, and  10am-7pm, Fridays.

Prices: $10 Non-swimmer/$20 swimmers under 42”/$29 swimmers over 42”

Specials: Mondays are BOGO for admission price, through 7/31/17. Twilight specials are run every Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday of July, which allows admission at 50% price starting at 4pm.

Short description: This aviation themed indoors water park has areas suitable for all age ranges.Includes a wave pool, a leisure pool, a vortex pool, an aqua play area, tot slides, kiddie slides, and four full sized slides (for those 42” or taller). Food is available. Dressing rooms are provided and lockers rentals ($5-$7) are available. Bring a towel. Life jackets and tubes are available free of charge. Lifeguards are on duty. No outside food or drink allowed inside the waterpark. You can exit the building for a picnic/snack break, and return if you would like.

Wild Waves

This park is the furthest away from Portland, but covers the greatest area, and boasts the largest number of rides and slides.  It is also the only outdoor park featured.

Website: https://www.wildwaves.com/

Where:  Federal Way, WA (2 ½ hours from Portland)

Hours and Days: 10am-7pm, Sun-Thr; 10am-8pm, Fri-Sat through August, then days and hours vary. Sept-Dec, only the theme park portion of the park is in operation.  The entire park is closed Jan-Apr.

Prices: July/August $40.99 General Park Admission (48″ & Over)/ $21.99 Child or Senior Admission (Under 48″, 60+)

Specials: online/discounted price is $29.99 General Park Admission/ $21.99 Child or Senior Admission. Season passes available for $64.99.

Short description: This park is a outdoor dual park – a theme park and a water park both on the same grounds, for one admission price. Water and theme park attractions are available for all age ranges.  Food and gift shops are available. Tubes can be rented for $8-$10. Dressing rooms are provided and lockers rentals ($12-$20) are available. Bring a towel and wear sunscreen. Life jackets are available free of charge, on a first come first serve basis. No outside food or drink allowed inside the water park. You can exit the park for a picnic/snack break, and return if you would like. Prices, dates, and hours vary greatly depending on time of year, and online discounts are available, so check the website before visiting the park..

Great Wolf Lodge

Admission to the park is only given to those staying at the Great Wolf Lodge. As such, it is the most expensive. That said, if you plan to stay in a hotel and go to a waterpark, the prices can be quite reasonable.

Website: https://www.greatwolf.com/grand-mound/

Where:  Grand Mound, WA (1 ½ hours from Portland)

Hours and Days: waterpark hours are 9am-9pm, 7 days a week.

Prices: Room list prices are from $249.99.  Specials and deals are available, especially if you plan in advance.  Four park wristbands come with each room rental, and additional bands can be purchased if your party has more than 4 people.

Specials: online/discounted price are available, especially if you book your stay in advance.

Short description: your stay offers you access to attractions and activities available for all age ranges. There is a large indoors water park, with a wave pool, swim and splash areas, play areas, and small, medium, and large slides. There is also an attached, fenced splash and play area outdoors popular with smaller children. Life jackets and tubes are available free of charge. Lifeguards are on duty. In addition to the water park, many dryland attractions and activities, dining, and shopping options are offered to the guests staying at the lodge. The cost of dryland attractions and food are in addition to your room price, but the activities (primarily aimed at younger children) are included.

So, if you are looking for a little more than your local public pool has to offer, check out our local water parks. Beat the heat, chill with the friends, or have fun with the family. However you spend your time, we just hope you enjoy yourself and make lots of memories.

The Lights of Nature

As we near the 4th of July, many of us eagerly await the spectacular firework shows we have come to associate with Independence Day.

But did you know that the Earth (and our universe) puts on amazing light shows for us each and every day?

From the skies to the seas, by plants or animals, it is all truly awe-inspiring.

Lights in the Sky:

Aurora Borealis:

The sun is giving off more than just light. It also emits electrically charged particles. When the particles collide with our atmosphere above the magnetic poles of the northern and southern hemispheres, the bright dancing lights of the aurora borealis can be seen. They can be blue, purple, green, yellow, and even red, depending on the altitude of the particles in our atmosphere. Here is an informative link about the aurora borealis.

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Shooting Stars and Meteor Showers:

When we look into the night sky and see a shooting star, what we are seeing is a speck of dust or a bit of debris that has entered our atmosphere. The small bits of matter heat up and glow as gravity pulls them towards the earth’s surface. When the earth passes through the debris trail left by a comet, we gets lots of shooting stars over a very short period of time. We call that a meteor shower.

 

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Many of the showers are predictable annual events. Perseids (PER) is the next big meteor shower and it takes place from July 17th through August 24th. It has an expected ZHR of 100 (meaning a person should be able to see 100 shooting stars per hour) at the height of the event, which takes place on August 12th this year.  Viewing is best after midnight, in a sky free from urban lights, so if you live in the city, consider going an hour out of town to view the event. More information about meteor showers and other astrological phenomena can be found at the American Meteor Society website.

Lightning:

Lightning is a sudden electrostatic discharge that occurs during a thunderstorm. This discharge can occur between electrically charged regions of a cloud, between two clouds, or between a cloud and the ground. It can be fascinating to watch. If you do decide to watch, play it safe.

Never go outside to watch lightning. Stay inside (building or vehicle) with the window’s closed to substantially reduces the chances of being struck. If you find yourself outdoors when a thunderstorm starts, go indoors, or get into a car. Resist the urge to pop open your umbrella, or duck under a tree.  Both increase your chances of being struck by lightning.

Bioluminescence:

Some living organisms produce their own light through chemical reactions that take place within themselves. This is called bioluminescence.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

From magical yellow fireflies, to green glowing mushrooms, to neon blue glow-in-the dark algae, to deep sea animals that make their own light, there are dozens and dozens of examples of organisms that bioluminesce.


 

 

 

 

Wikipedia has a list of organisms that use bioluminescence, and a specific list of bioluminescent fungi, if you want to check out other organisms.

If you don’t like the big man made show with the loud pops and bangs. You can still enjoy one of mother natures amazing shows for free. All of us at MoreBees will be enjoying a toned down local show on the 4th and then some of us will be catching the meteor shower that starts July 17th. I hope you have a safe and patriotic 4th of July. Remember, we fought a war against the most powerful nation on this planet to start a country where ordinary people can choose their leaders and openly express their beliefs. This is truly a day to celebrate our independence and freedom.

The Heat Is ON! Welcome Summer of 2017

It’s Here! And boy- is it going to be a doozy.

 

I’m talking about SUMMER!

Some possibly don’t know, other’s may  have not noticed, but June 21th was the summer solstice, marking the first day of summer and the longest day of the year.

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(stonehenge pic)

 

I found this really cool article from Vox about the summer solstice, and I just had to share. It talks about the science of the solstice (things like why there are seasons, the length of day, time of sunset, etc), as well as stonehenge and its relationship to the solstice, and the upcoming solar eclipse.

 

If the date didn’t clue you in, maybe the heat did. Which brings me to something really important I wanted to mention. This week there has been record highs across the South West  United States, with temperatures in the 110’s and even the 120’s in many places. The temperatures have stressed power grids, fueled wildfires, kept planes from flying, made people miserable, and cost some people their lives.With that, remember to never leave babies, small children, or pets in the car, even for a few moments. Temperatures can quickly become deadly inside a car, especially in this weather. Place reminder notes where you will see them right away (like your work station, the door leading into you house, or the first place you go when you get out of the car) to make sure you have remembered to take any babies/small children, sleeping kids, and/or pets from the car. Even an hour can be deadly in these summer temperatures.

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Be aware of the symptoms of heat exhaustion and heat stroke. Remember, these are serious and life threatening conditions. Heat exhaustion can lead to heatstroke, and heat stroke can lead to death. Don’t fool around. Stay hydrated (drink often, even if you don’t feel thirsty), stick to shade if you can, treat any symptoms if they occur, and call for emergency medical help if you think somebody is suffering from heat stroke.

For more information, checkout this informative link to an article from Accuweather.

 

Please stay safe this summer. Just because it’s going to be a hot one, doesn’t mean it can’t be a great one!

Happy Father’s Day!

Happy Father’s Day!

Celebrating the Differences in Dad

 

When I was a little kid, we had the special game called “Bear Trap.” My dad would be lying on the couch, and we would attempt to get close, and he would -predictably- “trap” one of us and tickle us. Whoever was caught would try to get away with the help of the other two. There was lots of laughing, rough-housing, tumbling about, and even the occasional crying when things got out of hand. But even if there was crying; it didn’t stop us the next time dad was lying on the couch. This was a game nobody else played with us –  not mom, or family friends, or teachers. Only Dad.

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Now that I’m an adult; and my husband and I have raised kids of our own, I know that my experiences aren’t unique. When it comes to parenting, daddies are different. How they play, how they communicate and interact, how they console and congratulate their children is different than how mothers tend to do these things.

  • How they play: Dad’s like to roughhouse with their kids. Games like wrestling, chasing each other, and keepaway. The ways they play with their kids tend to promote physical development, coordination, and strategy. (Whereas mothers tend to play with toys and games in ways that encourage social and cognitive development.)
  • How they communicate: Let’s be honest. Moms and dads both baby talk to small children. But as the child grows, dads tend to use bigger words, and more complex sentences with them sooner. They also expect kids to respond verbally, as opposed to crying, whining, or using other nonverbal cues, sooner than mothers do. There are other differences too. Dads don’t say as much to their kids, instead tending to interact physically. When they do talk to their kids, it tends to be more directive, like asking a child to do something or giving instruction (moms repeat what they say, offer explanations, and ask questions frequently about anything and everything).  Dads style challenges kids to articulate what they think, know, and feel (Whereas mom’s style is calming.).
  • How they interact: Dads like to interact in less conventional ways. They like to joke, tease, and use humor a lot more often than mothers. As long as the teasing and joking is done in a healthy non-bullying manner, this type of parenting can help kids learn how to deal with the unexpected, which can help them deal with the outside world better.
  • How they console: Dads are more likely to let their child handle their frustrations by themselves for a longer time than moms do. This parenting style, when done healthfully, can help children develop a sense of independence, builds confidence, and helps develop self-help and troubleshooting skills.

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Sometimes these differences come across with dads seeming gruffer or not as nice as moms, but Dads love their children as much. They just show it in different ways. Dads will be quiet and just smile, when they are so proud of the accomplishments of their kids, (first time riding a bike, performing in a play or with orchestra or band, …) Many times they are fighting back tears, not wanting to look weak. Sometimes they act strong to protect their kids, like when their daughter goes on their first date, or when their son learns to drive. Just remember that in those actions Dads are showing that they love you. Sunday is their day and I hope all of you get to say happy father’s day to your dad or to that guy that was the father in your life.

Happy Father’s Day!